In healthy, fulfilling relationships, communication is everything. Being able to freely discuss thoughts, fears, desires and needs with a partner can mean the difference between attraction and true intimacy. Communication isn’t everyone’s strong suit, though. We came up with a few of our favorite relationship “check-ins” you can discuss with your partner.
I have been working on ________ lately, how has that been going?
Everyone has goals, whether personally or professionally, that they strive to build upon over the course of day-to-day life. Relationship goals are no different. Have you been working on being more patient with your partner? Are you trying to prioritize quality time together? Ask your partner whether they’ve noticed, and whether those changes are working toward meeting your relationship goals.
What do you need from me?
It may seem like a simple question, but it is often the hardest one to ask. It may also be tough for partners to ask you for what they may need. By giving your partner the opportunity to ask for something you may not have otherwise thought of, it opens the line of communication to be vulnerable about their needs. If you want to be a better partner, ask how.
I really feel most connected to you when __________.
Is there a certain activity you do with your partner that really gives you the “warm and fuzzies?” Let them know. Remember, no one is a mind reader. The best way to let your partner know that you like something is by telling them. Letting your partner know something they do pleases you gives them a roadmap to providing satisfaction.
I really need space when ___________.
Not everything needs to be about being “together.” We all need space sometimes. Communicating with your partner about when you’d rather be left alone is just as important as talking about when you like to be together. Creating clear boundaries and guidelines for “alone time” makes your needs clear to your partner and leaves very little up for interpretation.
These are just a few of our favorite questions and topics to discuss with your partner in order to strengthen communication. Comment below and let us know which are your favorite conversations and check out our instagram for more information about relationship and sexual wellness!
