Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love and affection which is great for people in love but when you are in a newly established relationship or situationship, it is tricky to know how to navigate this day. You may want to acknowledge it or do something special but want to avoid overwhelming your partner. Do you buy a Valentine’s Day gift for a new partner? Plan a romantic evening out? Or ignore Valentine’s Day altogether? The answer will vary from relationship to relationship, and there is no “right” answer. This article will discuss general tips for how to celebrate Valentine’s Day in a new relationship to get you started.
Valentine’s Day Tips for New Relationships
Communicate expectations and desires clearly
Open communication is the ultimate key to success in relationships at any stage. Misaligned expectations, especially when they go unspoken, are a recipe for tension. You can start by expressing how you would like to celebrate, reflecting your openness to your partner’s thoughts, and that you would like to determine a plan that is comfortable for each person involved. If you find yourselves on opposing sides and cannot find a middle ground, be willing to find alternative solutions that work with your priorities. For example, if you want to celebrate with your partner because you love Valentine’s Day festivities, you could approach it by celebrating with friends instead. If you want to celebrate because you want to spend time with your partner, you could spend time with them on Valentine’s Day without indulging in the traditional activities.
Keep it small but meaningful
Extravagant gestures and gifts are not the only way to celebrate Valentine’s Day and may put unnecessary pressure on the relationship. If everyone in the relationship does want something extravagant, that is great! However, it is more likely that you will want to keep it small. Perhaps instead of going out to a fancy dinner, you can cook dinner together at home. Instead of expensive gifts, you can exchange chocolates or flowers. When determining what kind of celebration would feel most valuable, think about what each person wants out of the celebration. Whether that means gift-giving, quality time together, or physical affection, honing in on what is important to you is crucial in personalizing your celebration.
Celebrate with friends
If you love celebrating Valentine’s Day but your partner is uncomfortable or disinterested, think beyond celebrating romantic love and get together with friends. You can still spend quality time together, exchange cards, go out to a nice dinner, celebrate your bonds, and eat candy. The traditional festivities do not have to be exclusive to romance.
TLDR
It is tempting to get swept up in the generic tropes of what Valentine’s Day “should” look like. The best plan will be the one that accommodates each person’s values and priorities. By maintaining open communication and considering each person’s preferences, you can plan a special day that's memorable and meaningful without overwhelming them. If it’s a newer relationship or situationship, focus on getting to know each other better and nurturing your connection in whatever way feels right for you.
