Sexual Health

LGBTQIA+ Affirming Health Care: Tips for Professionals and Patients

Doctors’ appointments aren’t necessarily something that most people actively look forward to but when the patient in question is LGBTQIA+, the prospect can be downright terrifying. Receiving healthcare is often a vulnerable position to be in and when the risk of discrimination is that much higher, many LGBTQIA+ folks hesitate to take the chance even if it means denying themselves critical care. 

According to a report by Lambda Legal, “almost 56% of lesbian, gay, or bisexual respondents had at least one of these [various negative types of interaction with healthcare professionals] experiences; 70% of transgender and gender nonconforming respondents had one or more of these experiences.” Those kinds of numbers make it abundantly clear that LGBTQIA+ individuals are consistently discriminated against in healthcare environments and this discourages them from seeking needed care; not to mention that in some U.S. states, healthcare professionals can legally turn away an individual for being LGBTQIA+. 

These systemic issues need to be addressed but at the same time, LGBTQIA+ people are suffering at the hands of healthcare discrimination which has potentially life threatening consequences. There is room both to critique the system and recognize that it needs to be overhauled, as well as to acknowledge that people need access to compassionate care now. Both healthcare providers and LGBTQIA+ patients can take measures to make healthcare a more accessible and affirming experience. There are strategies to mitigate discrimination and exposure to it despite the fact that it may not be entirely unavoidable. 

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For Healthcare Professionals: Curating an LGBTQIA+ Welcoming Environment   

Change starts on an individual level and all healthcare professionals should strive to address the unique hurdles LGBTQIA+ people face when seeking care. Here are some ways to practice LGBTQIA+ affirming care:

  • Ask patients’ pronouns and default to gender neutral language if their pronouns are unknown. Additionally, make space for patients to disclose both their legal name and the name they identify with as sometimes they are different, especially for transgender people. 

  • Explicitly display support for LGBTQIA+ people and their health

    • Display brochures (multilingual when possible and appropriate) about LGBT health concerns, such as breast cancer, safe sex, hormone therapy, mental health, substance use, and sexually transmitted infections.

    • Hire LGBTQIA+ staff members

    • Attend and support local LGBTQIA+ events and businesses 

    • Publish a non-discrimination statement such as this example

  • Allow for a wide variety of identities and boundaries on intake forms 

    • This may include replacing the strict male/female options with blank spaces for both “gender” and “sex” categories.

    • Add room for patients to specify what name they’d like to be called, in addition to their legal name 

    • Allow people to disclose boundaries for the doctor such as not wanting to be weighed or not wanting a genital exam (unless explicitly necessary to the health concern at hand) 

  • Commit to continually learning and improving, especially in instances when you have made a mistake. 

  • Don’t assume anyone’s gender, anatomy, or sexuality

  • Listen to how patients describe their own sexual orientation, partner(s), gender, and relationship(s), and use their language. Although many LGBT people may use words such as “queer,” “dyke,” and “fag” to describe themselves, these and other words have been derogatory terms used against LGBT individuals. They are not appropriate for use by health care providers unless and until explicit consent is given by the patient. If you are in doubt as to how to refer to a patient, ask what word or phrase they prefer.

  • Ensure there is a gender neutral restroom option for patients

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For LGBTQIA+ Individuals: How to Protect Yourself

  • When searching for doctors, utilize resources such as a local LGBTQ+ clinics and centers for recommendations, or a directory like the one from the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association.

  • Look up reviews of a potential doctor to learn more about their patients’ experiences.

  • Explore the practice’s website to see if they explicitly display support for LGBTQIA+ people.

  • If you have questions for the doctor before you feel comfortable going in for an appointment, try emailing or calling the office and ask them questions about their experience working with LGBTQIA+ patients. Listen to your gut feeling about them after your call.

  • If possible, consider bringing a trusted friend, someone you feel safe and comfortable around, to your appointment. 

  • Your doctor’s job is to take care of you; the best way you can help them do that is by being upfront about your boundaries and any pertinent information about yourself, including your identity. Any good doctor will appreciate the guidance and unless your requests go against medical necessity, they should respect it.   

  • If you have a negative experience with a healthcare professional, make sure to practice self-care and process it with a trusted therapist if you have access to one. If not, talk with a consenting loved one about your experience.  

Hopefully these tips will assist both healthcare professionals and LGBTQIA+ patients to make LGBTQIA+ healthcare affirming, compassionate, and accessible. No one’s health should suffer because of ignorance. Healthcare is a human right for all, not just those who conform to arbitrary societal standards. LGBTQIA+ people deserve equitable access to proper healthcare. 

Sexuality Professionals Series: An Interview with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe

So, you want to learn more about the world of sexuality professionals. There is a vast variety of different routes within the world of sexuality-based careers. To get an idea of what the sexuality industry is really like, Embrace Sexual Wellness interviewed several sexuality professionals from different backgrounds. We will be sharing their wisdom and insight with you in a series of blog posts spotlighting each professional. Our first participant is Dr. Shemeka Thorpe (she/her), co-founder of The Minority Sex Report and Sex Researcher at the University of Kentucky.

Shemeka Thorpe, PhD is a sexuality researcher at the University of Kentucky. Her research focuses on the sexual well-being of Black women using sex-positive and intimate justice frameworks. She serves on the editorial board of the American Journal of Sexuality Education. Dr. Thorpe is the co-founder of the award-winning platform The Minority Sex Report, a platform created to provide representation in sexuality education primarily for Black and Native American women.

Sexuality research as a field originated with Dr. Alfred Kinsey at the Indiana University at Bloomington. In 1948, Kinsey published his groundbreaking — and controversial — "Sexual Behavior in the Human Male," which became a bestseller. "Sexual Behavior in the Human Female" was the even more controversial followup in 1953. Prior to this, the vast majority of formal research about human sexuality was scarce. The research that did exist was anecdotally based on patient-therapist interactions. Sex is such a quintessential and core aspect of human life and social interactions that it is necessary to explore its trends, changes, and variations from person to person. On a tangible level, sexuality research about reproductive health and adjacent topics informs the development of healthcare strategies, therapies, and other treatments.  

Sexuality researchers span a wide array of topics under the umbrella of human sexuality. For Dr. Thorpe, her main focus is the sexual wellbeing of Black women. To contextualize that further, a recent article she co-authored was entitled “Black Female Adolescents' Sexuality: Pleasure Expectancies, Sexual Guilt, & Age of Sexual Debut.” It “examined individual and familial influences on Black female adolescents’ sexual pleasure expectancies, sexual guilt, and age of sexual debut…” This type of research makes up the majority of her invaluable work on an underserved demographic. 

In addition to her research, she co-founded The Minority Sex Report. This business both educates and conducts consultations in order to facilitate better representation in sex education for people of color within an intersectional framework. 

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What inspired you to pursue your career path? 
Most of the research on Black people focuses on prevention and operates from a deficit based model. I want to change the narrative of Black sexology by focusing on sexual well-being particularly of Black women. Who better to do that than myself, a Black woman?

How does your field differ from that of other sexuality professionals?
There are a lot of sex researchers and we are all in different fields like public health, counseling, social work, sociology, women and gender studies, and the like. We all come together to advance sex research, but examine our research questions through different lenses. 

What's the most misunderstood thing about what you do?
That I solely focus on pregnancy and STI prevention as a sexuality educator or HIV and STI prevention as a sex researcher. I believe in comprehensive sex positive sex education and my research is sex positive focusing on Black women's overall sexual well-being, not prevention. 

What is the most rewarding part of your career?
The most rewarding part is creating a space for Black women to discuss sexuality and sexual problems including sexual anxiety and sexual pain. Many women have expressed they wish they had this information when they were younger or that this is there first time talking about these tough topics because they don't have a safe space to talk about sex. 

What advice would you want to share with aspiring sexuality professionals?
There is always room for more sexuality professionals. Be yourself and find your niche.


If you had to describe your work in one sentence, what would you say?
Making research relevant.

Thank you to Dr. Thorpe for taking the time to share her perspective. We encourage you to find Dr. Thorpe on social media and her websites, linked below.

Condoms for Coitus: Types of Condoms and Tips for Best Usage

Condoms get a bad rap. Most of that is made up of misconceptions though, which is why we’re here to clear them up. The reality is that condoms are an invaluable tool for safer sex. They are currently the only barrier method to effectively prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). You may be thinking “but I don’t have any STIs!” but in actuality, you can have asymptomatic, yet still transmittable STIs. The only way to ensure you do not have an STI is to get tested regularly. Condoms help prevent the transmission of STIs. It should be noted, there is no shame around STIs; they’re natural and they happen. That being said, most people would prefer to avoid them! 

Types of Condoms

When you think of a condom, you probably think about a latex sheath that rolls over any phallic object, be that penis or otherwise. Within this category of external condoms, there are a variety of options that differ in effects and material. There are also internal condoms.

Here are a few of the most common types of condoms:

  • External 

    • This is the condom you know and (maybe?) love. They are widely available, affordable, and 98% effective when used correctly. 

  • Internal 

    • Internal condoms, much less popular than their inverted sibling, are essentially a pouch that's inserted in the vagina or anus. It works like other condoms, except that it's worn on the inside.

  • Spermicide-coated

    • There are traditional condoms that are sold with a sperm-killing chemical on them. It is debatable whether the amount is significant enough to make a difference. The best bet, if you are interested in spermicide, would be to use a separate spermicide product in conjunction with condoms.

  • Polyurethane

    • Polyurethane condoms are an option for anyone who has a latex allergy. The biggest downside is that these are slightly more prone to breakage which is not a great quality for a condom. This means it is even more important than usual to have an additional contraceptive method on board with these types of condoms. An upside of these condoms is that polyurethane tends to be thinner than latex and may offer a preferable sensation for the person wearing them.

  • Flavored

    • Flavored condoms are exactly what they sound like: regular condoms that have flavors. These are best for oral sex, as opposed to vaginal or anal intercourse. As an aside, yes, you should be using condoms even for oral sex. The flavor has the potential to enhance the experience for the giver of oral sex but they should not be used inside any orifice of the body (e.g., vagina or anus) because the ingredients that create the flavor might cause irritation if used internally.

  • Textured

    • Textured condoms are also exactly what they sound like: regular condoms but with texture. While the texture offers no protective benefit, it may provide additional pleasure for the recipient of intercourse. It can be fun to experiment with different textures and evaluate how they impact the sexual experience. 

Tips

  • Always make sure your condom fits snugly but not so tightly it might break. Size is a huge factor in condom efficacy. 

  • Do not reuse condoms. 

  • Condoms expire! Regularly check their expiration date to make sure yours are still good to go; if not, they are far more likely to break. 

  • If your condom is not already lubricated, apply lube to the body before insertion to decrease friction (high friction leads to breakage).

  • Do not keep a condom in your wallet. The heat and friction are a recipe for breakage. 

  • Find a condom that you enjoy the feeling of, or at the very least do not mind. This way, you’ll be far more likely to use them. 

  • Do not use condoms with oil-based lubricant or any other oil-based product like baby oil or Vaseline. They will cause the condom to deteriorate. 

  • Do not wear more than one condom. It’s unnecessary at best and can lead to breakage at worst. 

  • For marathon sessions or longer sexual encounters, switch out condoms about every 30 minutes to prevent breakage. 

Happy National Condom Month! Now that you are aware of condom best practices, you can enjoy yourself while practicing safer sex with peace of mind.